haduuuh, mo jelasinnya aja udah males dan bingung mulai darimana.
yang jelas ini quite silly yet confusing.
yang aku pikir cuma ada di drama, ky di hidupnya mommy netta, ternyata ada juga di duniaku.
OMG!
I cant believe it. such thing does exist!
aku bukan mo nyari musuh. sumpah!
aku cuma mo nanya, bukan ngajak berantem.
I should control myself better.
no, I HAVE TO!
I regret all the things I said to her.
I shouldnt start it on the first place.
sorry.
PS : mas, cant we just bring our in laws and move back to NJ? hehehehehee..
5.11.09
3.11.09
26
Alhamdulillah, tgl 28 okt 2009 kemaren, umurku masuk ke 26 taun.
Aku mo doain diri sendiri..
Smoga dikasi umur panjang & kesehatan jiwa raga, supaya bisa lebih lama nemenin aksan & kiera, bisa lebih lama jd navigator di perahu ini sama si mas, bisa lebih lama berusaha jd anak yang berbakti sama mama-papa, lebih lama berusaha jadi kakak yang baik utk dtha & ade2 iparku, dan punya waktu lebih lama utk temenan sama temen2ku semua :)
Makin tua, semoga makin sabar ya mumu
Jangan gampang marah
Jangan gampang marah
Jangan gampang marah
Makin mendekatkan diri sama Allah SWT
Banyak shalat
Banyak amal
Don't grow old, but be mature :)
Lots of love for myself,
-me
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Aku mo doain diri sendiri..
Smoga dikasi umur panjang & kesehatan jiwa raga, supaya bisa lebih lama nemenin aksan & kiera, bisa lebih lama jd navigator di perahu ini sama si mas, bisa lebih lama berusaha jd anak yang berbakti sama mama-papa, lebih lama berusaha jadi kakak yang baik utk dtha & ade2 iparku, dan punya waktu lebih lama utk temenan sama temen2ku semua :)
Makin tua, semoga makin sabar ya mumu
Jangan gampang marah
Jangan gampang marah
Jangan gampang marah
Makin mendekatkan diri sama Allah SWT
Banyak shalat
Banyak amal
Don't grow old, but be mature :)
Lots of love for myself,
-me
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1.11.09
our own happiness
its been a while since the last time I saw him and talk to him
he's not a kind of person that I wanted to be with for my lifetime, but I was with him
for a few months
before I decided to stopped and walked away
made my way to found my own happiness
do I missed him?
its a question I need to answer to myself
I am secretly happy to see him today :)
HAPPY.
just like that
I want him to be happy
on his way to make his own happiness
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he's not a kind of person that I wanted to be with for my lifetime, but I was with him
for a few months
before I decided to stopped and walked away
made my way to found my own happiness
do I missed him?
its a question I need to answer to myself
I am secretly happy to see him today :)
HAPPY.
just like that
I want him to be happy
on his way to make his own happiness
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24.10.09
breastfeed = porn? u must be kidding me!
hari ini aku baca berita yang menurut aku KEBANGETAN banget parah di jakartapost. ini aku copy-paste-in beritanya ya.. enjoy and please write me your opinion. I'll write mine at the end of this posted page.
Saturday, October 24, 2009 9:37 AM
Live porn aboard an economy train?
Tue, 10/20/2009 1:24 PM | City
One day last week I took the train, economy-class, from Sawah Besar in Central Jakarta to Depok in West Java. It was 11:30 a.m., the sun was beating down and it was hot, all the train passengers were sweating heavily in the airless carriage.
I was standing near two mothers sat with their babies aged about 12-18 months old, who were enjoying the breeze coming in through the carriage windows.
Twenty minutes went by, it was getting hotter, and one of the toddlers, looking tired, started crying. The wailing baby grasped her mother*s shirt and tugged, fussing and wriggling, throwing her body from right to left in her mother's arms. Maybe because of the hot weather, or due to hunger, or tiredness.
Standing around the mother were several male passengers. Endless minutes later, the howling baby was still struggling and grasping at her mother*s shirt. I watched the mother and child; the baby's anguish, the mother's anxiety and her countless efforts to console her baby, all to no avail. Passengers started to feel irritated by the wailing.
As the crying became even louder, the mother gave up and slowly opened her shirt a little and offered her breast to the baby. Within a half second, the baby stopped crying and looked content. That, then, was the reason she had been crying for more than 20 minutes. I couldn't ignore the temptation of watching them, so I continue to look, marveling at how the baby became so calm after getting what she wanted, and how the male passengers were enjoying looking at a woman with her breast showing. There were six men around her, and they were avidly watching the breast-feeding process.
As a woman, I felt embarrassed. Really. However, for me, this was not the first time, 10 years ago, when I used to take the train every day, I was always coming across similar situations to today's. How can a baby exploit their own mother*s privacy just to satisfy their hunger or thirst? Yes, I know, little babies have not learned yet how to be reasonable. They cry to get what they need. If, at the time, you had been in my position, I bet you wouldn*t have stopped looking at them either, just like the group of men, who all enjoyed free porn that hot day. You would not only have felt amused, but astonished, at the fact that little babies have such great power to control their mothers and get what they want.
After this baby had calmed down, the second baby, about the same age as the first, watching her little friend suckling her mother's breast, perhaps, felt envious. So this baby then began to wail, with the same volume as had the first. But this baby's mother was wearing Muslim attire, which meant according to Islamic law she ought not show any part of the body forbidden to be seen by the opposite sex (aurat) and it would have been very awkward for her if she had opened part of her clothing to feed her baby. Therefore, she did not, she ignored the baby*s tantrum, even when the baby began to pull at her mother*s shirt with all her strength. Fifteen minutes later, the baby was still screaming, but her mother still did not offer her her breast.
That baby must have been very puzzled, upset and then distraught at not getting what she wanted. Why could her little companion get her needs met so easily, and yet she just had to accept that her mother wouldn't fulfill her needs?
The train scene became an amazing drama, a live performance from the mothers and babies. The first mother gave in to her baby's demands, while the second mother decided not to show her breast in public.
What would I do if I had a baby forcing me to open my shirt in front of a hundred strangers on the train? Frankly speaking, I have no idea, but for mothers who have experienced this situation, they have only two choices: offer the breast and see their baby content, or refuse and ignore the baby*s tantrum.
Porn is one of the most popular issues in society, as every time porn appears on television, many people and organizations are ready to demonstrate, but do they even know what has been happening on the trains all these years?
I realize I haven't got concrete empirical research data yet on how many mothers have ever opened their blouses and revealed their breasts to men in order to fulfill their babies' needs. It would be funny, and controversial, if this was treated and legalized as normal - and not porn.
- Mayasari Oey
My opinion :
menurut aku pendapat perempuan ini ANEH banget.
1. dia merasa malu liat ibu yang menyusui bayinya di kereta
2. dia ga melakukan apa2 untuk menutupi breast ibu yang menyusui tersebut, which is bertentangan sama "ke-malu_an"nya dia tadi
3. dia berkata seolah2 bayi/toddler memaipulasi ibunya supaya mau memperlihatkan breast untuk menyusui bayi. halloooow? babies dont manipulate!
4. ibu yang memilih untuk menyusui bukanlah seseorang yang dengan sengaja membuka bajunya untuk mengeluarkan breastnya dan menarik perhatian laki2 secara seksual. she wants to feed her child, thats it!
5. dia ga tau, bahwa proses menyusui terjadi, bukan cuma karena si anak laper/haus, tapi juga ketika anak merasa ga comfort sama situasi di sekitarnya. bahkan kadang ibunya yang merasa ga comfort dan menenangkan diri dengan cara menyusui anaknya.
hhhhhh.. aku hampir yakin, bahwa ketika dia jadi ibu nanti, dia ga akan menyusui bayinya, what a poor baby..
buat aku, menyusui adalah salah satu hal paling indah yang pernah aku alami & lakukan. waktu ngeliat aksan/kiera nyusu, sambil tangannya megang mukaku, dan matanya menatap mataku. wuuuuuiiiiih.. bahagiiiiiaaaaa banget..
aku so far ga pernah ada masalah selama nyusuin aksan (selama 18bulan) dan kiera (sampe skrg udah 14bulan dan insya Allah akan terus berlangsung sampe kiera 2 tahun).
waktu aksan dulu, klo lg jalan2 ke zoo ato ke park, suka aksan tiba2 minta mimik. klo ada tempat yang memungkinkan untuk menyusui, sejelek2nya di wc, asal ga bau dan jorok, aku bakal nyusuin di situ. pernah juga di central park zoo, ketika kamar mandi jauh bgt, sementara aksan udah nangis minta susu, aku duduk aja di salah satu kursi taman, dan nyusuin aksan di situ.
waktu kiera, aku udah lebih siap. waktu hamil aku beli nursing cover, sesuatu yang ga kepikir waktu sama aksan dulu. jadi klo mo nyusuin, tinggal pasang aja nursing covernya. walopun ga gitu nyaman jg pake nursing cover, krn panas kan ditutup begitu. tapi ga semua orang bisa beli nursing cover kan. lagipula, klo toh punya, syapa tau suatu saat pas ga bawa nursing covernya, anaknya ngerengek minta nyusu.
aku ngobrol sama mas ttg hal ini, dan si mas pun ngasi komentar yang sama. menurut si mas, menyusui langsung tuh ya proses normal aja, alamiah, ga ada yg perlu dikategorikan sbg porn. itu yang cowo lho bilang begitu. lho ini koq yg cewe malah sebaliknya komentarnya??!
aku yakin sekali, ibu yang menyusui di kereta tadi, akan sangat berterima kasih jika mayasari oey, yg menulis artikel di atas, bukan cuma merasa malu krn dirinya, tetapi malah memberikan bantuan, misalnya bantu menutupi ibu yang sdg menyusui itu, ato pun meminta laki2 yg sedang melihat, utk memalingkan muka.
so, kalo ada yang berpikiran bahwa menyusui baby adalah porn, maka sebaliknya ditengok dulu deh isi otak masing2, jangan2 emang isinya cuma porn aja.. bwekkekeek!
Saturday, October 24, 2009 9:37 AM
Live porn aboard an economy train?
Tue, 10/20/2009 1:24 PM | City
One day last week I took the train, economy-class, from Sawah Besar in Central Jakarta to Depok in West Java. It was 11:30 a.m., the sun was beating down and it was hot, all the train passengers were sweating heavily in the airless carriage.
I was standing near two mothers sat with their babies aged about 12-18 months old, who were enjoying the breeze coming in through the carriage windows.
Twenty minutes went by, it was getting hotter, and one of the toddlers, looking tired, started crying. The wailing baby grasped her mother*s shirt and tugged, fussing and wriggling, throwing her body from right to left in her mother's arms. Maybe because of the hot weather, or due to hunger, or tiredness.
Standing around the mother were several male passengers. Endless minutes later, the howling baby was still struggling and grasping at her mother*s shirt. I watched the mother and child; the baby's anguish, the mother's anxiety and her countless efforts to console her baby, all to no avail. Passengers started to feel irritated by the wailing.
As the crying became even louder, the mother gave up and slowly opened her shirt a little and offered her breast to the baby. Within a half second, the baby stopped crying and looked content. That, then, was the reason she had been crying for more than 20 minutes. I couldn't ignore the temptation of watching them, so I continue to look, marveling at how the baby became so calm after getting what she wanted, and how the male passengers were enjoying looking at a woman with her breast showing. There were six men around her, and they were avidly watching the breast-feeding process.
As a woman, I felt embarrassed. Really. However, for me, this was not the first time, 10 years ago, when I used to take the train every day, I was always coming across similar situations to today's. How can a baby exploit their own mother*s privacy just to satisfy their hunger or thirst? Yes, I know, little babies have not learned yet how to be reasonable. They cry to get what they need. If, at the time, you had been in my position, I bet you wouldn*t have stopped looking at them either, just like the group of men, who all enjoyed free porn that hot day. You would not only have felt amused, but astonished, at the fact that little babies have such great power to control their mothers and get what they want.
After this baby had calmed down, the second baby, about the same age as the first, watching her little friend suckling her mother's breast, perhaps, felt envious. So this baby then began to wail, with the same volume as had the first. But this baby's mother was wearing Muslim attire, which meant according to Islamic law she ought not show any part of the body forbidden to be seen by the opposite sex (aurat) and it would have been very awkward for her if she had opened part of her clothing to feed her baby. Therefore, she did not, she ignored the baby*s tantrum, even when the baby began to pull at her mother*s shirt with all her strength. Fifteen minutes later, the baby was still screaming, but her mother still did not offer her her breast.
That baby must have been very puzzled, upset and then distraught at not getting what she wanted. Why could her little companion get her needs met so easily, and yet she just had to accept that her mother wouldn't fulfill her needs?
The train scene became an amazing drama, a live performance from the mothers and babies. The first mother gave in to her baby's demands, while the second mother decided not to show her breast in public.
What would I do if I had a baby forcing me to open my shirt in front of a hundred strangers on the train? Frankly speaking, I have no idea, but for mothers who have experienced this situation, they have only two choices: offer the breast and see their baby content, or refuse and ignore the baby*s tantrum.
Porn is one of the most popular issues in society, as every time porn appears on television, many people and organizations are ready to demonstrate, but do they even know what has been happening on the trains all these years?
I realize I haven't got concrete empirical research data yet on how many mothers have ever opened their blouses and revealed their breasts to men in order to fulfill their babies' needs. It would be funny, and controversial, if this was treated and legalized as normal - and not porn.
- Mayasari Oey
My opinion :
menurut aku pendapat perempuan ini ANEH banget.
1. dia merasa malu liat ibu yang menyusui bayinya di kereta
2. dia ga melakukan apa2 untuk menutupi breast ibu yang menyusui tersebut, which is bertentangan sama "ke-malu_an"nya dia tadi
3. dia berkata seolah2 bayi/toddler memaipulasi ibunya supaya mau memperlihatkan breast untuk menyusui bayi. halloooow? babies dont manipulate!
4. ibu yang memilih untuk menyusui bukanlah seseorang yang dengan sengaja membuka bajunya untuk mengeluarkan breastnya dan menarik perhatian laki2 secara seksual. she wants to feed her child, thats it!
5. dia ga tau, bahwa proses menyusui terjadi, bukan cuma karena si anak laper/haus, tapi juga ketika anak merasa ga comfort sama situasi di sekitarnya. bahkan kadang ibunya yang merasa ga comfort dan menenangkan diri dengan cara menyusui anaknya.
hhhhhh.. aku hampir yakin, bahwa ketika dia jadi ibu nanti, dia ga akan menyusui bayinya, what a poor baby..
buat aku, menyusui adalah salah satu hal paling indah yang pernah aku alami & lakukan. waktu ngeliat aksan/kiera nyusu, sambil tangannya megang mukaku, dan matanya menatap mataku. wuuuuuiiiiih.. bahagiiiiiaaaaa banget..
aku so far ga pernah ada masalah selama nyusuin aksan (selama 18bulan) dan kiera (sampe skrg udah 14bulan dan insya Allah akan terus berlangsung sampe kiera 2 tahun).
waktu aksan dulu, klo lg jalan2 ke zoo ato ke park, suka aksan tiba2 minta mimik. klo ada tempat yang memungkinkan untuk menyusui, sejelek2nya di wc, asal ga bau dan jorok, aku bakal nyusuin di situ. pernah juga di central park zoo, ketika kamar mandi jauh bgt, sementara aksan udah nangis minta susu, aku duduk aja di salah satu kursi taman, dan nyusuin aksan di situ.
waktu kiera, aku udah lebih siap. waktu hamil aku beli nursing cover, sesuatu yang ga kepikir waktu sama aksan dulu. jadi klo mo nyusuin, tinggal pasang aja nursing covernya. walopun ga gitu nyaman jg pake nursing cover, krn panas kan ditutup begitu. tapi ga semua orang bisa beli nursing cover kan. lagipula, klo toh punya, syapa tau suatu saat pas ga bawa nursing covernya, anaknya ngerengek minta nyusu.
aku ngobrol sama mas ttg hal ini, dan si mas pun ngasi komentar yang sama. menurut si mas, menyusui langsung tuh ya proses normal aja, alamiah, ga ada yg perlu dikategorikan sbg porn. itu yang cowo lho bilang begitu. lho ini koq yg cewe malah sebaliknya komentarnya??!
aku yakin sekali, ibu yang menyusui di kereta tadi, akan sangat berterima kasih jika mayasari oey, yg menulis artikel di atas, bukan cuma merasa malu krn dirinya, tetapi malah memberikan bantuan, misalnya bantu menutupi ibu yang sdg menyusui itu, ato pun meminta laki2 yg sedang melihat, utk memalingkan muka.
so, kalo ada yang berpikiran bahwa menyusui baby adalah porn, maka sebaliknya ditengok dulu deh isi otak masing2, jangan2 emang isinya cuma porn aja.. bwekkekeek!
22.10.09
Amazanisa 14bulan
Jalannya udah lancar. Klo jalan ogel2 ky pantatnya ketinggalan, minta ditowel.
Beratnya 8,3kg, tingginya 76cm.
Ngoceh terus, ga bisa diem.
Sukanya manggil2 mama, mumu, popo, papaaah, mash, miam (cat), biii (bird), efff (fish). Trus pura2 karaokean sambil gotong2 mike kliling ruangan. Bwekkekke!!
Hobinya ngerusuhin mas aksan. Aksan main apa aja kiera pgn ikutan. Bgitu jg mas aksannya, adenya pegang apaa aja direbut. ASTAGA! Hhhhhh.. *ngelus dada*
Makannya mulai mood2an, kdg mau, kdg engga, tapi relatif lbh gampang dari aksan waktu seumur kiera gini.
Lucu bgt pokonya!
Sungguh menggemaskan!
Namanya jg ibunya, boleh dong muji terus.. Hahahaha!
Awas ya klo ada yang bilang anakku jelek! Kayak anak situ cakep aja.. Bwekkekkekeek!!
Baby kiera, sehat terus ya sayang.. Love love..
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21.10.09
For Dinner Today
Its Kepiting Saos Padang!!
Beda dikit sama yang aku bikin di NJ dulu, yang ini kepitingnya kepiting telor.
Yummy!!
Enjoy (the picture) everyone :)
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Aksan's First Time ke Dentist
Akhirnya kemaren aku telp KMC, bikin appointment utk dokter gigi anak. Dapetnya jam 5 sore, sama drg Echa. Mau ke dr Wati skalian, tapi (pastinya) penuuuuhhh! Hehehe.. Yowes, ke drg Echa dulu aja, toh udah janjian sama dr Anto hari kamis.
Awalnya aksan excited bgt mo ke dentist, krn pas aku jemput pulang skolah lgsg nanya, "mu, kita mau ke dokter gigi ya?", tapi pas aku blg dentistnya baru ada jam 5 sore, aksan melempem. Aku ajak aksan ke dbest fatmawati dulu, krn mama & kiera lg blanja di sana, skalian supaya aksan makan siang. Trus abis dari situ, mama & kiera pulang duluan, aku & aksan jalan ke arah KMC, tapi krn baru jam 4, kami mampir ke Total. Cuma beli beberapa mangga okyong, alpukat, pisang, jus mama roz, asparagus, otak2 buat aksan & minute maid buat aku. Trus baru deh ke KMC.
Sampe di KMC jam 4.30 pm, aku lgsg daftar, trus dianter ke kliniknya. Aksan liat playgroundnya KMC lgsg pengen maen. Aksan ditimbang dan diukur tingginya sama asistennya drg Echa. Beratnya (masi terus nongkrong di) 11kg, dan tingginya 92cm. Karena blm jam 5, aku kirain dokternya blm dateng, eh taunya udah. Aksan ogah gitu diajak masuk ke ruang priksa. Aku suruh aksan ambil salah satu mainan utk dibawa masuk ke ruang priksa, baru deh mau masuk. Drg Echa top bgt deh pokonya! aksan diajak main2 kursi priksa, diajak kenalan sama ruangannya dulu, trus berhasil mendudukan aksan secara suka rela di kursi priksa, dan buka mulut teruuuuus sampe 1,5 jam kemudian. Aksan ga nangis & ga komplen, tp sempet jeda krn mo pipis dulu. Hebat kan? Heheheehe..
Alhamdulillah, skrg 4 gigi serinya aksan udah ga bolong lagi. Dan utk reminder diriku sendiri, ga bole lupa2 mulu ajak aksan untuk sikat gigi tiap abis makan. Ntar balik lagi in 6 months, utk cek tambalannya.
Thanks mas aksan!
Thanks drg Echa & tante Mala!
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15.10.09
bye bye reddy :( . welkam my boo :)
hari ini aku say bye-bye sama reddy, laptop yang udah nemenin aku setaun ini. ga beneran nemenin banget sih, secara aku lebih sering pake desktop, trus abistu si reddy ganti motherboard dan makin jarang dipake. dari setaun+sebulan dimiliki, aku makenya just like about 6-7 bulanan lah. dan aku blom terlalu attach sama reddy. karena makin ga kepake itu lah akhirnya aku mutusin untuk jual reddy, daripada dia cuma jadi ganjelan buku :P
dulu nih, alesan aku beli reddy cuma 1, warnanya merah! hehehee.. since aku suka warna merah sih ya. trus sengaja pilih yang RAMnya 3GB, karena aku mikirnya bakal banyak pake untuk photoshop-an. hardrivenya jg lumayan gede 320GB, bakal buat nyimpen2 foto. tapi oh tapi, karena desktop aku wkt itu layarnya 22" dan RAM & hardrivenya lebih gede, jadi lah aku lebih sering pake desktop.
alhamdulillah, acara jual laptop kali ini ga pake nangis2. hehehehee.. aku emang klo udah terlalu attach sama suatu barang, jadi suka mellow klo mo jual, padahal di rumah ga kepake, ato emang butuh uang utk beli yang baru. hhahahaa.. yes yes, you may laugh at me!
eniwei, aku juga mau say welkam to my room's newest member "my boo". and yes, she's just gorgeous!
dulu nih, alesan aku beli reddy cuma 1, warnanya merah! hehehee.. since aku suka warna merah sih ya. trus sengaja pilih yang RAMnya 3GB, karena aku mikirnya bakal banyak pake untuk photoshop-an. hardrivenya jg lumayan gede 320GB, bakal buat nyimpen2 foto. tapi oh tapi, karena desktop aku wkt itu layarnya 22" dan RAM & hardrivenya lebih gede, jadi lah aku lebih sering pake desktop.
alhamdulillah, acara jual laptop kali ini ga pake nangis2. hehehehee.. aku emang klo udah terlalu attach sama suatu barang, jadi suka mellow klo mo jual, padahal di rumah ga kepake, ato emang butuh uang utk beli yang baru. hhahahaa.. yes yes, you may laugh at me!
eniwei, aku juga mau say welkam to my room's newest member "my boo". and yes, she's just gorgeous!
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